Pretty much any person I work with or have in one of my classes reveals to me that “hecticness” and absence of time are at fault for quite a bit of their inward pressure and agitate.
Not. So. Quick.
I’m not going to invest a huge load of energy on this. You and I both act smarter. How about we do this all things considered…
“Occupied” has an energy about it.
Give it a shot. “I’m so occupied.” “I’m so occupied.” “OMG, I’m soooo occupied.” Feel it. Let’s assume it. Be it. Notice what occurs in your body. Ugh.
Obviously, you can embed any energy that doesn’t serve you here: “It’s hard” or “It will not work” are two of my top choices for damage, letting ourselves free, as well as withdrawing when we’re frightened.
Presently take that energy to your associate. To your children. To your accomplice. Accommodating?
It’s not your “shortcoming”. It’s a default. An incredible spot to rest. Marvelous spot to “look at”. Yet, back to occupied…
Occupied is a sham.
It causes us to feel better. Significant.
It gives us a reason to say “no”.
It can conceal our feeling of dread toward a showdown or frustrating another person.
It is a concealing spot. A cop out. A scape goat. An inevitable lively prescience. An impression of our failure to say “yes” and “no” to the right things.
Occupied is distressing. What’s more, it’s infectious.
Give it a shot for yourself. Think about your variant of “occupied”. Think about the story you tell about it. How frequently you recount that story. Who you advise it to.
The most hazardous individual to recount that story to is obviously… ourselves. The more we advise it, the more we trust it, the more we encapsulate it. We become “occupied”. Welcome to the twirl.
I watch this on numerous occasions. I will observer individuals say that the thing among them and their fantasies is “occupied”. The thing among them and being a decent pioneer, getting more rest, working out, dealing with their body, in any event, eating great food, having a superior marriage, giving criticism that could change a day to day existence, acquiring new business, whatever… is occupied.
Occupied has a great deal of force. What’s more, what’s most exceedingly terrible is that we feed it. We are the cause all our own problems with regards to “occupied”.
Imagine a scenario where it’s easier than that. Imagine a scenario in which we could make occupied our… companion?
Consider the possibility that occupied was only an absence of essence, goal, and prioritization.
Imagine a scenario in which, you’re not really occupied. Yet rather missing presence, on the spot, at the time.
Also, imagine a scenario where this hecticness and absence of quality is just concealing your lucidity and insight for the right “yes'” and “no’s”.
Inhale and mull over everything.
Presence and expectation are the cures to occupied.
Breathing recuperates occupied.
A strong “yes” or “no” merits 100 hazy “yes'”.
Viewpoint, needs, and qualities explain and tame “occupied”.
At the point when we really become a close acquaintence with occupied, we can dismantle it and make it work for us.
“Occupied” and “absence of time” are digging in for the long haul. We need to improve at driving our energy through them, coming clean, esteeming our time, and collaborating with them. We need to improve at being available and purposeful in our lives. Furthermore, we need to tune in.
I had a customer years prior who was occupied, occupied, occupied. So occupied, individuals observed it harrowing to associate with her. They would not like to draw in with her. Also, they’d never ask her for bearing or backing – she had a lively power field around her that said “Ease off, I’m occupied”.
At the point when we penetrated down to what her relationship was with “occupied” – she discovered it was a defender for her. Being occupied constantly saved her free for saying “no” and frustrate individuals who she would not like to spend time with or work with. It likewise caused her to feel significant in her work. The issue was that she so become tied up with her story that she had completely exemplified it. She talked quicker, wasn’t completely present with individuals, was capable as disconnected, and she didn’t feel better. Occupied really showed itself in her physiology.