Got a moment?
Pretty much any individual I work with or have in one of my classes discloses to me that “hecticness” and absence of time are at fault for quite a bit of their inside pressure and beat.
Not. So. Quick.
I’m not going to invest a huge load of energy on this. You and I both act smarter. We should do this all things being equal…
“Occupied” has an energy about it.
Give it a shot. “I’m so occupied.” “I’m so occupied.” “OMG, I’m soooo occupied.” Feel it. Let’s assume it. Be it. Notice what occurs in your body. Ugh.
Obviously, you can embed any energy that doesn’t serve you here: “It’s hard” or “It will not work” are two of my top picks for harm, letting ourselves free, as well as withdrawing when we’re terrified.
Presently take that energy to your associate. To your children. To your accomplice. Accommodating?
It’s not your “issue”. It’s a default. An extraordinary spot to rest. Amazing spot to “look at”. However, back to occupied…
Occupied is a joke.
It causes us to feel better. Significant.
It gives us a reason to say “no”.
It can shroud our anxiety toward conflict or disillusioning another person.
It is a concealing spot. A cop out. A scape goat. An inevitable enthusiastic prediction. An impression of our failure to say “yes” and “no” to the right things.
Occupied is unpleasant. Also, it’s infectious.
Give it a shot for yourself. Think about your form of “occupied”. Think about the story you tell about it. How frequently you recount that story. Who you advise it to.
The most perilous individual to recount that story to is obviously… ourselves. The more we advise it, the more we trust it, the more we encapsulate it. We become “occupied”. Welcome to the whirl.
I watch this on numerous occasions. I will observer individuals say that the thing among them and their fantasies is “occupied”. The thing among them and being a decent pioneer, getting more rest, working out, dealing with their body, in any event, eating great food, having a superior marriage, giving criticism that could change a day to day existence, acquiring new business, whatever… is occupied.
Occupied has a great deal of force. Furthermore, what’s most exceedingly awful is that we feed it. We are the cause all our own problems with regards to “occupied”.
Imagine a scenario in which it’s less difficult than that. Imagine a scenario where we could make occupied our… companion?
Consider the possibility that occupied was only an absence of essence, expectation, and prioritization.
Consider the possibility that, you’re not really occupied. But instead missing presence, on the spot, at the time.
Furthermore, imagine a scenario where this hecticness and absence of quality is basically concealing your lucidity and shrewdness for the right “yes'” and “no’s”.
Inhale and mull over everything.
Presence and aim are the antitoxins to occupied.
Breathing recuperates occupied.
A strong “yes” or “no” merits 100 hazy “yes'”.
Viewpoint, needs, and qualities explain and tame “occupied”.
At the point when we really get to know occupied, we can dismantle it and make it work for us.
“Occupied” and “absence of time” are staying put. We need to improve at driving our energy through them, coming clean, esteeming our time, and joining forces with them. We need to improve at being available and deliberate in our lives. What’s more, we need to tune in.
I had a customer years prior who was occupied, occupied, occupied. So occupied, individuals observed it harrowing to associate with her. They would not like to draw in with her. Furthermore, they’d never ask her for course or backing – she had a fiery power field around her that said “Ease off, I’m occupied”.
At the point when we penetrated down to what her relationship was with “occupied” – she discovered it was a defender for her. Being occupied constantly saved her free for saying “no” and disillusion individuals who she would not like to spend time with or work with. It likewise caused her to feel significant in her work. The issue was that she so become tied up with her story that she had completely exemplified it. She talked quicker, wasn’t completely present with individuals, was capable as disconnected, and she didn’t feel better. Occupied really showed itself in her physiology.
When she got fair and clear with regards to what occupied was about for her, she had the option to collaborate with it, rather than opposing it or utilizing it as a “bat”. She completed 3 things:
She put forth a cognizant attempt to take at the time and focus on her actual body. This was critical. She likewise, at the time, checked in with reality… Is it safe to say that she planned to bite the dust? Is it true that she was genuinely using up all available time? Was a tiger going to get her on the off chance that she didn’t make it happen? (Amusingly, these are frequently the physiological reactions we have to the account of occupied.)
She put forth a cognizant attempt to be completely with somebody when they were conversing with her. Amusingly it required some investment, yet without the opposition and interior prattle, it was simpler and more agreeable.
She made a cognizant (however troublesome) choice to deny individuals when she would not like to accomplish something. She held it as a YES to herself. Unexpectedly, however hard as it seemed to be, it was such a lot of cleaner to explore it thusly, that she felt truly and intellectually better. The psychological energy she’d spent, holding occupied to stay away from disillusioned, was hers once more. To improve things.